Intrigue me!

TheLittleStrawberry · 10-23-2007, 07:14 PM

Hey, so this is supposed to be a message for all those "masters" out there. What I've noticed is that, there are quite a few masters, but hardly ANY of them intrigues me or wakes up my interest. No, actually, they all seem to bore me.

Like in any ad(whether it's commercial or not), you have to think about your target. In this case, a Master's target is an unowned slave in need of a master. But the competition is tough out there, so I'm really clueless as to why none of them do anything to rise above the rest.
A very generic Master message is: "I'm a master. I'm looking for a slave(age x to x), webcam required/not required. message me at xxxxx"... So... Which part of this message seemed intriguing? I'd say none. There wasn't even a slight connection to the reader. it seemed more like a half-assed message just thrown out there for the heck of it.
So it's the lack of connection between the sender and receiver. its as if these Master are writing their messages to... a whole third kind of people. Well certainly not me.

I know I wouldn't contact these people solely because there are enough, more intriguing people out there, and these people don't even seem interested in me.

So I decided to put up a few tips for these people, as I'd really like to see an improvement in the general message.

first tip is... Loosen up. Step out of the box, and don't be afraid to sound different, be different as that can be intriguing. And if you're looking for a special type of person, it doesn't matter if it doesn't appeal to the rest.

second tip... Talk about yourself. Slaves like to know what they will expect before they contact a potential future master. Write down your age, a little background about yourself(what kind of person you are, highlights of your life that made you who you are). Don't put up a novel of course, though.

Third... Talk about your experience. how many slaves have you had? What other previous experience have you had, and how long time have you been at this? Also one important think to add is if you have tried to be a slave before. To some it might not appeal, but I know that a Master who has felt it on his/her own skin how it is to be a slave, are generally far more understanding and educated in a slave's needs.

fourth: Talk about your expectation and what you're willing to offer... Both are very important. As stated before, the slave likes to know what to expect. But most importantly, giving a small example about what you would do to them is in fact intriguing.
Write about your fetishes, what you find most important in an M/s relationship. Is it the kinkyness you like? The power exchange?
Maybe make a small list of fetishes like:

"Here's a list of what is most important to me:

- Humiliation(public, private)
- Watersports
- Bondage
- pain
- feet"

It's really not as hard as it looks like....
You could also make it a bit more exciting... Maybe write a small piece of how an average day would be for the slave.
Maybe like this(trying to make a note from a sadistic point of view":

"As my slave, I would take care of you. You'd be my little pearl. But I would also be strict and sadistic. I'd like to make you scream and cry. You would be my dress up doll, my slut. You will be nothing more than a toy for me, who will follow my orders willingly.
I will humiliate you, take care of you, punish you when needed."

I could probably come up with something better, but I'm not a master and I just wanted to get the point across.
And don't be afraid to say nasty stuff like "You will be made to piss yourself"... If you are looking for a slave that wants to be made to piss her/himself, then say you are looking for a slave that wants to piss herself. Don't hold back. Us slave are secretly turned on by nasty statements like that. Or most of us anyway.

One last tip:
also write about what you expect from a slave. Is it a full committed relationship you want? Do you want the slave to have a webcam AND digicam? What fetishes must he/she have? Who does this message appeal to?
Does she/he need and previous experience?

Well I'm done for now. I'm pretty sure most of you already know all this. But I'm posting this as a reminder for those who are too lazy or uninspired to create an intriguing post. Be a bit more personal, and you will feel the difference. I guarantee it.
If anyone else wants to add to this, or correct anything, please feel free to post here.

This topic was dedicated to the one guy who managed to break the lowest of the lowest standards in the master/slave history ever

Link: http://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthrea...8859#post28859

SubMissChievous · 10-23-2007, 08:09 PM

Thank you so much for this post! I have been in a "seeking" position myself at some point & could not believe the amount of "I want a slave right now, message me on [email protected]" type of ads. Please, don't read into this that I'm berating "master-to-be" because I'm not. But it had to be said because those ads has sadly became a norm here.

Just to give an example: If I would P.M. some "master-to-be" & said: "Hey, I'll be ur slave, pick me right now" Wouldn't you want to know a bit more before doing so? Yes, of course!

So please, "masters-to-be", earn your title if you want to call yourselves & be called "Masters".

SolarFox · 10-23-2007, 08:14 PM

OMG! i know what u mean when i was still looking for a master a lot of the potential masters only put their age and gender in their pms! i didnt know anything about them and it was a real turnoff!

SubMissChievous · 10-23-2007, 08:16 PM

And some of them don't even have their ages & gender in their profile which I believe should be mandatory when registering on here.

SolarFox · 10-23-2007, 08:25 PM

much too true! It is very disappointing when you don't know anything about someone who is asking to be your master!

SubMissChievous · 10-23-2007, 08:31 PM

Yes, it is. Often people believe that just because one is dominant & the other submissive that there is going to be an automatic match operating. Wrong! Just like in any other sphere of life some compatibility has to take place in order to make it work. I hope this thread opens eyes to everyone who wish to get involved in a Master(Mistress)/slave relationship...

userben · 10-23-2007, 08:33 PM

well stated i just skem through the slave and master area now it so repative.

in all honesty the guys need to loosen up we know that most guys want a female slave but lisen it not going to happen most of the time have a boy as your slave its NOT Gay on the plus side you a boy to so you know what hurts and how to humlate them stuff like that

TheLittleStrawberry · 10-24-2007, 03:44 AM

I'm glad you all agree with me here

Now... I just wish this post could get more "published" I'm not sure how many Masters-to-be actually go to this section.

MasterO · 10-24-2007, 05:03 AM

The same can be said for the slaves out there, I get messages from people saying "will you be my master" no info. about them and usually an incomplete profile.

TheLittleStrawberry · 10-24-2007, 06:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MasterO

The same can be said for the slaves out there, I get messages from people saying "will you be my master" no info. about them and usually an incomplete profile.

That's not my area though

I usually add info about myself.

If you want, you can make a similar topic only for slaves this time

Sum · 10-24-2007, 10:24 AM

Excelent thread Strawberry, it is allways quite disheartening to see so many people unble to put across the basics of what they would like from a slave master relationship. I think this is something wannabe masters tend to forget, they just think about themselves, about how they're gonna get to jack off and not actually think that the person who they are hoping to get to submit has wants and needs too.
I've been considering looking for a new sub (been taking a bit of a break from it to explore my own submissive side, and have been feeling that i wouldn't have enough time to give to a subbie) but have been put off somewhat by the fact that there are so many of these very short posts that anything decent gets lost under the piles of tripe.

Hopeful with these tips comming out from time to time something will sink through.... we can only hope.

p.s. love your chicken shit list, another great idea.

bobo · 10-25-2007, 11:53 AM

congrats to blank who changed thishttp://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthrea...8859#post28859

to this
http://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthrea...8967#post28967

brownie · 10-27-2007, 08:44 PM

i disagree thow, if youo be a slave, you know what your geting into, you cant post, what your going to make them do because that might be in there limits, Mybe im just not understandin this,( O now Rocky got a homerun awwww 1 run game, sry wachin world series) I know we fight alot, but i have to disagrree with you.

SubMissChievous · 10-27-2007, 08:51 PM

It's not about knowing what a Master will make a slave do at all. It's about knowing what the person is seeking in a M/s relationship. There many different types of Masters and same for slaves. It's very important to have some basic information on what a person likes, dislikes, expects, etc. And yes, if I know that someone will make me do something beyond my limits is important. Then I would not contact this person & lose my time & his as well. JUst because one is dominant & the other is submissive does not mean you have an automatic match. It takes way much more than that.

TheDivineSorcerer · 05-21-2011, 10:39 PM

Quite interesting insights there. Good job. Since I am new here it was good to see both sides of the community on this site. Cheers.

10-23-2007, 07:14 PM	#1
TheLittleStrawberry getDare Devil Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: somewhere Posts: 1,142 Blog Entries: 15	Intrigue me! Hey, so this is supposed to be a message for all those "masters" out there. What I've noticed is that, there are quite a few masters, but hardly ANY of them intrigues me or wakes up my interest. No, actually, they all seem to bore me. Like in any ad(whether it's commercial or not), you have to think about your target. In this case, a Master's target is an unowned slave in need of a master. But the competition is tough out there, so I'm really clueless as to why none of them do anything to rise above the rest. A very generic Master message is: "I'm a master. I'm looking for a slave(age x to x), webcam required/not required. message me at xxxxx"... So... Which part of this message seemed intriguing? I'd say none. There wasn't even a slight connection to the reader. it seemed more like a half-assed message just thrown out there for the heck of it. So it's the lack of connection between the sender and receiver. its as if these Master are writing their messages to... a whole third kind of people. Well certainly not me. I know I wouldn't contact these people solely because there are enough, more intriguing people out there, and these people don't even seem interested in me. So I decided to put up a few tips for these people, as I'd really like to see an improvement in the general message. first tip is... Loosen up. Step out of the box, and don't be afraid to sound different, be different as that can be intriguing. And if you're looking for a special type of person, it doesn't matter if it doesn't appeal to the rest. second tip... Talk about yourself. Slaves like to know what they will expect before they contact a potential future master. Write down your age, a little background about yourself(what kind of person you are, highlights of your life that made you who you are). Don't put up a novel of course, though. Third... Talk about your experience. how many slaves have you had? What other previous experience have you had, and how long time have you been at this? Also one important think to add is if you have tried to be a slave before. To some it might not appeal, but I know that a Master who has felt it on his/her own skin how it is to be a slave, are generally far more understanding and educated in a slave's needs. fourth: Talk about your expectation and what you're willing to offer... Both are very important. As stated before, the slave likes to know what to expect. But most importantly, giving a small example about what you would do to them is in fact intriguing. Write about your fetishes, what you find most important in an M/s relationship. Is it the kinkyness you like? The power exchange? Maybe make a small list of fetishes like: "Here's a list of what is most important to me: - Humiliation(public, private) - Watersports - Bondage - pain - feet" It's really not as hard as it looks like.... You could also make it a bit more exciting... Maybe write a small piece of how an average day would be for the slave. Maybe like this(trying to make a note from a sadistic point of view": "As my slave, I would take care of you. You'd be my little pearl. But I would also be strict and sadistic. I'd like to make you scream and cry. You would be my dress up doll, my slut. You will be nothing more than a toy for me, who will follow my orders willingly. I will humiliate you, take care of you, punish you when needed." I could probably come up with something better, but I'm not a master and I just wanted to get the point across. And don't be afraid to say nasty stuff like "You will be made to piss yourself"... If you are looking for a slave that wants to be made to piss her/himself, then say you are looking for a slave that wants to piss herself. Don't hold back. Us slave are secretly turned on by nasty statements like that. Or most of us anyway. One last tip: also write about what you expect from a slave. Is it a full committed relationship you want? Do you want the slave to have a webcam AND digicam? What fetishes must he/she have? Who does this message appeal to? Does she/he need and previous experience? Well I'm done for now. I'm pretty sure most of you already know all this. But I'm posting this as a reminder for those who are too lazy or uninspired to create an intriguing post. Be a bit more personal, and you will feel the difference. I guarantee it. If anyone else wants to add to this, or correct anything, please feel free to post here. This topic was dedicated to the one guy who managed to break the lowest of the lowest standards in the master/slave history ever Link: http://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthrea...8859#post28859 __________________ My dares are bigger than your dares! Im doing dares again If you wanna send one, you can PM me, but I'll probably hang around the dare threads as well. Limits: I wont ingest anything nasty, Nothing messy that will ruin my furniture or belongings, nothing public, nothing illegal. most humiliating dare: I was dared not to remove my panties at all for a few days. Not even for bathroom duties, and to cut a little hole for 'nr 2' as I couldnt remove them . It was strange.

10-23-2007, 08:09 PM	#2
SubMissChievous Prodigy Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Canada Posts: 4,466	Thank you so much for this post! I have been in a "seeking" position myself at some point & could not believe the amount of "I want a slave right now, message me on [email protected]" type of ads. Please, don't read into this that I'm berating "master-to-be" because I'm not. But it had to be said because those ads has sadly became a norm here. Just to give an example: If I would P.M. some "master-to-be" & said: "Hey, I'll be ur slave, pick me right now" Wouldn't you want to know a bit more before doing so? Yes, of course! So please, "masters-to-be", earn your title if you want to call yourselves & be called "Masters". Last edited by SubMissChievous; 10-23-2007 at 08:23 PM. Reason: My bad English... again! lol

10-23-2007, 08:14 PM	#3
SolarFox Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Tennessee but originally from New Jersey Posts: 29	Reply OMG! i know what u mean when i was still looking for a master a lot of the potential masters only put their age and gender in their pms! i didnt know anything about them and it was a real turnoff! __________________ This pic is what Jenn from the getdare RPG looks like (well at least what I think she would look like) didn't get a chance to color it yet .:SolarFox:.

10-23-2007, 08:25 PM	#5
SolarFox Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Tennessee but originally from New Jersey Posts: 29	reply much too true! It is very disappointing when you don't know anything about someone who is asking to be your master! __________________ This pic is what Jenn from the getdare RPG looks like (well at least what I think she would look like) didn't get a chance to color it yet .:SolarFox:.

10-23-2007, 08:31 PM	#6
SubMissChievous Prodigy Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Canada Posts: 4,466	Yes, it is. Often people believe that just because one is dominant & the other submissive that there is going to be an automatic match operating. Wrong! Just like in any other sphere of life some compatibility has to take place in order to make it work. I hope this thread opens eyes to everyone who wish to get involved in a Master(Mistress)/slave relationship... Last edited by SubMissChievous; 10-23-2007 at 08:32 PM. Reason: Chloé needs to take care of her bad English!

10-23-2007, 08:16 PM	#4
SubMissChievous Prodigy Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Canada Posts: 4,466	And some of them don't even have their ages & gender in their profile which I believe should be mandatory when registering on here.

10-23-2007, 08:33 PM	#7
userben getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: iowa Posts: 461	well stated i just skem through the slave and master area now it so repative. in all honesty the guys need to loosen up we know that most guys want a female slave but lisen it not going to happen most of the time have a boy as your slave its NOT Gay on the plus side you a boy to so you know what hurts and how to humlate them stuff like that __________________ "every where i go it seems like i'm going in the wrong way and i need to turn around and start over"

10-24-2007, 03:44 AM	#8
TheLittleStrawberry getDare Devil Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: somewhere Posts: 1,142 Blog Entries: 15	I'm glad you all agree with me here Now... I just wish this post could get more "published" I'm not sure how many Masters-to-be actually go to this section. __________________ My dares are bigger than your dares! Im doing dares again If you wanna send one, you can PM me, but I'll probably hang around the dare threads as well. Limits: I wont ingest anything nasty, Nothing messy that will ruin my furniture or belongings, nothing public, nothing illegal. most humiliating dare: I was dared not to remove my panties at all for a few days. Not even for bathroom duties, and to cut a little hole for 'nr 2' as I couldnt remove them . It was strange.

10-24-2007, 05:03 AM	#9
MasterO Account Banned Join Date: May 2007 Location: US Posts: 364	The same can be said for the slaves out there, I get messages from people saying "will you be my master" no info. about them and usually an incomplete profile. __________________ MasterO Always looking for female dare slaves that are willing to do my dares and reply.

10-24-2007, 10:24 AM	#11
Sum getDare Devil Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 1,049 Blog Entries: 9	Excelent thread Strawberry, it is allways quite disheartening to see so many people unble to put across the basics of what they would like from a slave master relationship. I think this is something wannabe masters tend to forget, they just think about themselves, about how they're gonna get to jack off and not actually think that the person who they are hoping to get to submit has wants and needs too. I've been considering looking for a new sub (been taking a bit of a break from it to explore my own submissive side, and have been feeling that i wouldn't have enough time to give to a subbie) but have been put off somewhat by the fact that there are so many of these very short posts that anything decent gets lost under the piles of tripe. Hopeful with these tips comming out from time to time something will sink through.... we can only hope. p.s. love your chicken shit list, another great idea.

10-25-2007, 11:53 AM	#12
bobo Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: On the North Side, Dublin, Ireland Posts: 239 Blog Entries: 5	congrats to blank who changed thishttp://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthrea...8859#post28859 to this http://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthrea...8967#post28967 __________________ <#EliteCode~adderfang> I love allison

10-27-2007, 08:44 PM	#13
brownie Account Banned Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 52 Blog Entries: 1	i disagree thow, if youo be a slave, you know what your geting into, you cant post, what your going to make them do because that might be in there limits, Mybe im just not understandin this,( O now Rocky got a homerun awwww 1 run game, sry wachin world series) I know we fight alot, but i have to disagrree with you. __________________ i was a legend and chole banded me (

10-27-2007, 08:51 PM	#14
SubMissChievous Prodigy Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Canada Posts: 4,466	It's not about knowing what a Master will make a slave do at all. It's about knowing what the person is seeking in a M/s relationship. There many different types of Masters and same for slaves. It's very important to have some basic information on what a person likes, dislikes, expects, etc. And yes, if I know that someone will make me do something beyond my limits is important. Then I would not contact this person & lose my time & his as well. JUst because one is dominant & the other is submissive does not mean you have an automatic match. It takes way much more than that.

05-21-2011, 10:39 PM	#15
TheDivineSorcerer Junior Member Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 23	Quite interesting insights there. Good job. Since I am new here it was good to see both sides of the community on this site. Cheers. __________________ I was born Dominant. Be who you really are, anything else will only give enjoyment for so long. Interesting, intelligent and creative submissive girls, ladies and women, feel free to PM me even if it's just for banter!