I may sound like an idiot but...

MountainMan1 · 05-17-2011, 05:32 PM

Well this is probroally a really stupid question but I don't want to be assuminng things so i'll ask it.

What exactly is a switch?

In my idea of a switch that came to me is this: someone who is both the sub and dom in a BDSM relationship.

Also if my assumtion is correct hoe would a serious switch relationship work? Would it be like the positions of subs and doms switch off? And if so, how often?

If anything else of importance comes along to you, please post it!

Also, if my assumption of a switch is correct it seems really great, if any female switches want to you can PM me and maybe we can work something out.

Again, any replys are helpful!

Counterfeit_Fantasy · 05-17-2011, 05:50 PM

Switch: A person who can play both the roles of a sub and a dom. A switch could either play the opposite role their partner prefers. Or, with another switch, they can alternate depending on mood, desire, coin flip, alignment of the moon and the sun, so on.

Pet Phoenix · 05-18-2011, 02:54 AM

exactly, as counterfiet says, you can obviously discuss and agree the terms of your 'switching' with your partner, i have a couple of friends who just do it on a weekly basis, 'as in i'm dom this week, you get to be dom next week' and so on, so they just end up wreaking ever mor devious vengence on each other for what the other did to them last week

which probably isn't the moooosst ideal set up, but it's fun ^^

I started out as a dom, quickly decided i preferred being submissive and now i'd be full time submissive with no dominance whatsoever quite happily, however i do get flar ups of a sort of lustful dominance where i just wanna pin my master down and ravage him till he howls ^^ Which is fine and great, beacause my master loves that too

He and I switch purley as and when needed based on our moods. Most of the time he's dominant but there are times when he just needs a bit of loving domination or, more often, wants to get pinned down and forcefully bred 'against his will' :P

We've gotten to the point where we don't need to talk about it anymore, we can just feel it in the other, or give well recognised hints. I'm able to come out of even the most submissive states to dominate him, even if i don't enjoy that as much as when i'm feeling dominant, he can't tell the difference, however i don't think most people can do that.. It's best when he responds to my natural flares of dominance or when my feelings of dominance co-incide with his feelings of wanting to be submissive (both of which are fairly infrequent) If i feel dominant and he doesn't feel submissive or like he wants to submit then i'll go to try and dominate him and suddenly be reminded of how much stronger and taller he is than me O.o *giggles and shivers* and i'll be shown my place O.O dun stop me trying tho

Heh, so anyway.. there's two looks at a 'switch' relationship for ya :3 hope that offers insight ^^

Jari · 05-18-2011, 03:54 AM

Switching does not have to be with the same person. I don't have much experience unfortunately, but I know someone who is purely submissive to his mistress, but his mistress does allow him to play the dominant part with other people and he loves that too.

MountainMan1 · 05-18-2011, 12:33 PM

Thanks for the help guys, I guess i'll go out on a search for another switch and see what it's like first hand.

05-17-2011, 05:32 PM	#1
MountainMan1 getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 316	I may sound like an idiot but... Well this is probroally a really stupid question but I don't want to be assuminng things so i'll ask it. What exactly is a switch? In my idea of a switch that came to me is this: someone who is both the sub and dom in a BDSM relationship. Also if my assumtion is correct hoe would a serious switch relationship work? Would it be like the positions of subs and doms switch off? And if so, how often? If anything else of importance comes along to you, please post it! Also, if my assumption of a switch is correct it seems really great, if any female switches want to you can PM me and maybe we can work something out. Again, any replys are helpful! __________________ "Choices are what you choose to do, and if it's causin' no harm it shouldn't bother you." -Ben Harper M/USA/Streight Kik: SissyCrossdresser Message me dares that involve Cross dressing, Masterbation, Humiliation, Pain, Bondage, Semi-Public!

05-17-2011, 05:50 PM	#2
Counterfeit_Fantasy Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Narnia Posts: 188 Blog Entries: 9	Switch: A person who can play both the roles of a sub and a dom. A switch could either play the opposite role their partner prefers. Or, with another switch, they can alternate depending on mood, desire, coin flip, alignment of the moon and the sun, so on. __________________ Passive Aggressive, Sarcastic, and Squishy, oh so Squishy Message - Comment - FetLife

05-18-2011, 02:54 AM	#3
Pet Phoenix Distinguished Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: London Posts: 712 Blog Entries: 5	exactly, as counterfiet says, you can obviously discuss and agree the terms of your 'switching' with your partner, i have a couple of friends who just do it on a weekly basis, 'as in i'm dom this week, you get to be dom next week' and so on, so they just end up wreaking ever mor devious vengence on each other for what the other did to them last week which probably isn't the moooosst ideal set up, but it's fun ^^ I started out as a dom, quickly decided i preferred being submissive and now i'd be full time submissive with no dominance whatsoever quite happily, however i do get flar ups of a sort of lustful dominance where i just wanna pin my master down and ravage him till he howls ^^ Which is fine and great, beacause my master loves that too He and I switch purley as and when needed based on our moods. Most of the time he's dominant but there are times when he just needs a bit of loving domination or, more often, wants to get pinned down and forcefully bred 'against his will' :P We've gotten to the point where we don't need to talk about it anymore, we can just feel it in the other, or give well recognised hints. I'm able to come out of even the most submissive states to dominate him, even if i don't enjoy that as much as when i'm feeling dominant, he can't tell the difference, however i don't think most people can do that.. It's best when he responds to my natural flares of dominance or when my feelings of dominance co-incide with his feelings of wanting to be submissive (both of which are fairly infrequent) If i feel dominant and he doesn't feel submissive or like he wants to submit then i'll go to try and dominate him and suddenly be reminded of how much stronger and taller he is than me O.o giggles and shivers and i'll be shown my place O.O dun stop me trying tho Heh, so anyway.. there's two looks at a 'switch' relationship for ya :3 hope that offers insight ^^ __________________ 20/Male/London If you wish to make a man happy add not to his riches but take from his desires. My toys: http://www.kinktalk.com/talk/album.php?albumid=650 extreme anal, pain, bondage, toys, enemas, mild cbt, non-consensual, humiliation, denial, flagellation/spanking, crossdressing, nipple play, heavy cbt, milking, watersports, urethral, chores, daipers, friends, public, wax/fire, e-stim scat, worship, family

05-18-2011, 03:54 AM	#4
Jari Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 78	Switching does not have to be with the same person. I don't have much experience unfortunately, but I know someone who is purely submissive to his mistress, but his mistress does allow him to play the dominant part with other people and he loves that too. __________________ likes: humiliation, bondage, anal, orgasm control, mild pain, pet play, forced crossdressing. dislikes: CBT, heavy pain limits: messy, public, poop, permanent, eating/drinking filthy stuff, damaging my clothes.

05-18-2011, 12:33 PM	#5
MountainMan1 getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 316	Thanks for the help guys, I guess i'll go out on a search for another switch and see what it's like first hand. __________________ "Choices are what you choose to do, and if it's causin' no harm it shouldn't bother you." -Ben Harper M/USA/Streight Kik: SissyCrossdresser Message me dares that involve Cross dressing, Masterbation, Humiliation, Pain, Bondage, Semi-Public!