Intrigue me!

[TheLittleStrawberry]

Hey, so this is supposed to be a message for all those "masters" out there. What I've noticed is that, there are quite a few masters, but hardly ANY of them intrigues me or wakes up my interest. No, actually, they all seem to bore me.

Like in any ad(whether it's commercial or not), you have to think about your target. In this case, a Master's target is an unowned slave in need of a master. But the competition is tough out there, so I'm really clueless as to why none of them do anything to rise above the rest.
A very generic Master message is: "I'm a master. I'm looking for a slave(age x to x), webcam required/not required. message me at xxxxx"... So... Which part of this message seemed intriguing? I'd say none. There wasn't even a slight connection to the reader. it seemed more like a half-assed message just thrown out there for the heck of it.
So it's the lack of connection between the sender and receiver. its as if these Master are writing their messages to... a whole third kind of people. Well certainly not me.

I know I wouldn't contact these people solely because there are enough, more intriguing people out there, and these people don't even seem interested in me.

So I decided to put up a few tips for these people, as I'd really like to see an improvement in the general message.

first tip is... Loosen up. Step out of the box, and don't be afraid to sound different, be different as that can be intriguing. And if you're looking for a special type of person, it doesn't matter if it doesn't appeal to the rest.

second tip... Talk about yourself. Slaves like to know what they will expect before they contact a potential future master. Write down your age, a little background about yourself(what kind of person you are, highlights of your life that made you who you are). Don't put up a novel of course, though.

Third... Talk about your experience. how many slaves have you had? What other previous experience have you had, and how long time have you been at this? Also one important think to add is if you have tried to be a slave before. To some it might not appeal, but I know that a Master who has felt it on his/her own skin how it is to be a slave, are generally far more understanding and educated in a slave's needs.

fourth: Talk about your expectation and what you're willing to offer... Both are very important. As stated before, the slave likes to know what to expect. But most importantly, giving a small example about what you would do to them is in fact intriguing.
Write about your fetishes, what you find most important in an M/s relationship. Is it the kinkyness you like? The power exchange?
Maybe make a small list of fetishes like:

"Here's a list of what is most important to me:

- Humiliation(public, private)
- Watersports
- Bondage
- pain
- feet"

It's really not as hard as it looks like....
You could also make it a bit more exciting... Maybe write a small piece of how an average day would be for the slave.
Maybe like this(trying to make a note from a sadistic point of view":

"As my slave, I would take care of you. You'd be my little pearl. But I would also be strict and sadistic. I'd like to make you scream and cry. You would be my dress up doll, my slut. You will be nothing more than a toy for me, who will follow my orders willingly.
I will humiliate you, take care of you, punish you when needed."

I could probably come up with something better, but I'm not a master and I just wanted to get the point across.
And don't be afraid to say nasty stuff like "You will be made to piss yourself"... If you are looking for a slave that wants to be made to piss her/himself, then say you are looking for a slave that wants to piss herself. Don't hold back. Us slave are secretly turned on by nasty statements like that. Or most of us anyway.


One last tip:
also write about what you expect from a slave. Is it a full committed relationship you want? Do you want the slave to have a webcam AND digicam? What fetishes must he/she have? Who does this message appeal to?
Does she/he need and previous experience?




Well I'm done for now. I'm pretty sure most of you already know all this. But I'm posting this as a reminder for those who are too lazy or uninspired to create an intriguing post. Be a bit more personal, and you will feel the difference. I guarantee it.
If anyone else wants to add to this, or correct anything, please feel free to post here.


This topic was dedicated to the one guy who managed to break the lowest of the lowest standards in the master/slave history ever
Link: http://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthrea...8859#post28859

[SubMissChievous]

Thank you so much for this post! I have been in a "seeking" position myself at some point & could not believe the amount of "I want a slave right now, message me on [email protected]" type of ads. Please, don't read into this that I'm berating "master-to-be" because I'm not. But it had to be said because those ads has sadly became a norm here.

Just to give an example: If I would P.M. some "master-to-be" & said: "Hey, I'll be ur slave, pick me right now" Wouldn't you want to know a bit more before doing so? Yes, of course!

So please, "masters-to-be", earn your title if you want to call yourselves & be called "Masters".

[SolarFox]

OMG! i know what u mean when i was still looking for a master a lot of the potential masters only put their age and gender in their pms! i didnt know anything about them and it was a real turnoff!

[SubMissChievous]

And some of them don't even have their ages & gender in their profile which I believe should be mandatory when registering on here.

[SolarFox]

much too true! It is very disappointing when you don't know anything about someone who is asking to be your master!

[SubMissChievous]

Yes, it is. Often people believe that just because one is dominant & the other submissive that there is going to be an automatic match operating. Wrong! Just like in any other sphere of life some compatibility has to take place in order to make it work. I hope this thread opens eyes to everyone who wish to get involved in a Master(Mistress)/slave relationship...

[userben]

well stated i just skem through the slave and master area now it so repative. in all honesty the guys need to loosen up we know that most guys want a female slave but lisen it not going to happen most of the time have a boy as your slave its NOT Gay on the plus side you a boy to so you know what hurts and how to humlate them stuff like that

[TheDivineSorcerer]

Quite interesting insights there. Good job. Since I am new here it was good to see both sides of the community on this site. Cheers.

[Anjelen]

Originally Posted by Anjelen, some time ago

30/male/master seeks any age/any sex/slave in any location (have webcam)
Hello. My name is Guus - though by lack of pronouncability for those english-speaking people, i have taken on the nôm-de-plume of Anjelen.

I am thirty years old, 1.76 meters tall, have blue eyes and darkblonde hair - though i tend to shave my head bald these days.

Being a Taoist, Agnostic and Hedonist i have a personal philosophy of accepting others as others are, taking life as it comes and making the best of it; rolling with the punches so to speak, and dealing with life with as little conflict as possible - this philosophy goes both ways.

As such i'm a friendly Dominant, if a perverted one in cases - though i understand my more-or-less full lack of Limits, not to mention some of my kinks, aren't for everyone.
I am adaptable to say the least, and will happilly spend hours discussing with you the ins and outs of your personality thereby to be able to make a possible D/s dynamic between you and i function to our mutual satisfaction.

As i am, i have some sixteen years of experience; first five years as an, admittedly ungrateful, submissive in order to learn the tricks of the trade from various Dominants and Dommes, and then eleven years as a Dominant on both a professional and at-home level, though i quit the pro-dom scene a number of years back for reasons of my own.

I am not perfect - but i seek to learn every day. I am somewhat set in my ways, but i at least endeavor to remain flexible.

What i seek - a female submissive aged 18-30, appearance of little to no importance.
- Well-groomed, well-mannered, capable of communication.
- Experience not a must nor a preference.
- You know that there are two sides to the word 'Slut' - yes, one of my major kinks is that for humilliation, though i'm capable of praise as well.
- Spelling a must - let's at least try and speak the english language, shall we?
- Wannabes need not apply.

Your likes and dislikes are important - though through your and my interaction i will seek to delve into the deeper and darker realms of your psyche, as well as to return you from there unscathed.

What i offer - Safety. Equality. Dominance. Sadism. Humilliation. Freedom. Knowledge and experience in a wide variety of subjects, ranging from an attempt-at-college-level psychology and sexuology to a headfull of trivia.

For instance, did you know that grasshoppers keep their ears on their knees?

Again, i'm not perfect. I'm not going to say i was born to do this - but i do know that as young as five years old i stole the barbies of the girl next door in order to tie them up in my room. Micro-shibari, anyone?

Key words;
- No permanent marks
- Safe, Sane & Consensual
- Form and Role
- Pleasure, pain, and romance in the name of decadence, hedonism, mutual indulgence and simple, plain fun.

As ordering you to message me would be highly pretentious of me, not to mention likely to have the opposite effect;
Consider this an invitation to get to know me, in stead.
- Your potential Master, Anjelen.

Just asking...Intrigueing enough? :P 'Cause at the time the responce was, as i'd expected, zero.