How to get higher quality dares when you ask

[SubMissChievous]

Not much to add on what was said in the original post but I wanted to add a bit on the comments about males vs. females regarding the amount of replies to threads.

No I'm not going to dispute the fact that if you're female you're going to get more replies. That's a given considering that there are more heterosexual (or bi) males on here than females. That's simply what the odds are.

However, I have seen some guys get good replies in the past, and some who did almost as many as females. In those particular cases, the trend I noticed was that these members were people who had been active on here for quite some time and interacted well with the community. So while a female newbie may get attention right away just based on gender the trend is simply that if a female gets lots of replies but does not give good follow ups then the attention on her future posts will decrease. While it's the opposite for guys: the first few posts may get less attention than they wished for but good follow ups and reports, being active and fun in general is likely to pay off eventually.

Another thing to consider is that some of us females are a little hesitant to give dares to guys. Myself I don't give them to people I don't know anymore due to the fact that when I did, way too often I would get numerous "propositions" from HNGs wanting to be my slave... It sucks and often times not the thread's original poster's fault but that's how it is.

So... yes, it is uneven but also not entirely impossible to get good responses to threads for guys in TorD. It just unfortunately requires more patience than for girls.

[Jaro]

Originally Posted by SubMissChievous

Another thing to consider is that some of us females are a little hesitant to give dares to guys. Myself I don't give them to people I don't know anymore due to the fact that when I did, way too often I would get numerous "propositions" from HNGs wanting to be my slave... It sucks and often times not the thread's original poster's fault but that's how it is.

Very good points you make here. I especially like this one. I totally understand why women would choose not to do this anymore given these consequences.
Thank you for your input!

[Salty Dog]

One thing I don't like at all is when people are baiting as fuck... I feel like every other thread has a f/18, f/19 or similar in it's title. I highly doubt that most of them are at that age or even female... I can't understand why people keep replying to those threads. It's obviously bait guys...

Of cause this is a result of the situation you described before.

In my opinion it should be forbidden to put any data about age or sex in the titel on the request board.

[Jaro]

Originally Posted by Salty Dog

In my opinion it should be forbidden to put any data about age or sex in the titel on the request board.

Good point! That would be a good rule I think.

[Wedgiebondagebabe]

I want to provide an opinion on one of the older comments made about age. I hope this can be insightful to some. For me personally, I tend to give dares to people I would hang out with in real life. By that I mean people who are around my age. Once a person reaches 30 or even 25/26 it starts getting to old for me. Right now in my life, I think that is too old for me to be dating so when it comes to more sexual tasks (which not all dares are) I feel uncomfortable writing them. As we start getting older, I am sorry I cannot help thinking about if I was giving my mom, dad or one of their friends dares. It is weird to me and limits what I am able to construct. It also goes to the other end, I sometimes avoid giving dares to people who are 18/19 because of the reasons already listed above. There is a track record of people being around for the quick fuck and dump. That or people try to get the most extreme things people can write and then they never do them. So if I play with newer members and people who are new to me, don't be surprised if I want to talk with you more so I can understand your loves, likes, dislikes, and limits.

With that being said, if you want better dares, develop loves, likes, dislikes, and limits. These can be helpful if you tell people you want a punishment. We will probably pick from dislikes. If you want a funishment, we might go overboard on your likes. If you want pleasure or something fun, we will go straight to your loves and likes. Also one of the best comments I have seen is someone who split their limits up into categories. They listed out hard limits that are not to be broken. Limits until they can trust someone such as pictures, videos, and recordings. Limits that can be used for punishment, but only in cases where they are necessary and not for the little disobedience. On top of detailing your limits think about your likes. If you like wedgies, what about it is it that you like? do you have a favorite kind of wedgie? Do you like longer wedgies or 15 minute wedgies. Do you like someone controlling your underwear choice. Do you like someone talking you through it and letting you out when they decide but you do not know the time? The more detailed you are, the more specific someone can get for your tasks.

To reiterate other posts, and a blog I made called details, details, details; write reports and write them well. The task giver knows the task they gave you. Spill some of whats going on in your head. Was it a hard task? Was there a challenging moment? Did you have to stop half way through because something was too much? Did you really like something and want to do it again? Did you feel submissive, horny, controlled? Did you do something that turned a dislike into a love? If you write these things it can help people give you further tasks, it can show more that you actually tried it, and it is a little present and payment for the person that gave you a task. They can see how much effort you put into their task and if you enjoyed it. A report can even be a back and forth conversation with the person that gave you the task if you are having trouble writing things down. I am sure there are people that if they take the time to give you the task would possibly love to help talk you through it afterwards if you asked politely and worked into their schedule. If not, that is okay too because sometimes we do not have time for that.

Good luck and have fun everyone.

[Nemo0of0Utopia]

Originally Posted by SubMissChievous

So... yes, it is uneven but also not entirely impossible to get good responses to threads for guys in TorD. It just unfortunately requires more patience than for girls.

This, this was exactly what I needed to hear right now.

Thank you.

[AnalAddict]

I wanted to contribute some of my first insights here:

1) Yes, I’m pretty sure the start is easier when you’re female because people will check your dare out just because of that. I also agree with the earlier advice though; it takes more than that to keep it up. And yes, guys can have very active TODR threads too. You can find a few doing really well right now. These guys have a community of people they have fun with, and you’ll see them interact with those people on loads of threads. So when they create one, we’re all there for the fun.

2) Fun. All of this is about enjoyment and fun, for the person starting the thread and for the darers. One of the key factors I’ve seen in people getting lots of dares is for them finding enjoyment in the replies and showing it. Even better if you can inject some wit into it. Intermediate tallies, rewards for top posters, and reports after doing some or all of the dares that share some of the sensations or emotions as well as what it was you did, make it soooo much more fun.

3) Make it simple, without killing creativity. Unless you’re looking for out-of-the-box dares, keywords can help. As can clear rules that are not overly complex. Give people some variety to choose from, while showing the things you actually want. Even better if you can add back some creativity by letting the Xth poster go wild with ideas / have the top poster decide and set a task at the end / ...

4) Having someone post on your behalf can be amazing fun—people might like to know the thread was a gift/punishment to someone else IF the person the dares are intended for actively participates and clearly enjoys (or dreads in the fun way) what’s happening.

5) Link to your dare in your signature, it gives people an easy way to interact with your dare. In my humble opinion, it only works well if you interact a lot with others on the forums (and not just for the sake of visibility, but actual interactions) and if you think through what others will get out of your dare (in my case, they clearly want revenge for all the edges I've been sharing with joy )

Above all, have fun